The holidays can cause stress in marriages whether you are newlyweds or have been married for more than 30 years – marriage counseling at Take Charge, Inc. can help you, as a couple, thrive during the holidays when money, family members and traveling can be major stressors on your marriage.
Couples often fight over money and budgeting. The holidays can cause an excessive amount of stress about money. One way to forgo the stress and fighting is to sit down together and write up how much you are willing to spend on gifts, decorations and more.
There is a lot of pressure to get your children all the presents they want, but parents should remember that money doesn’t equal memories. Instead of blowing your budget, your family can volunteer at community events or choose a family in need and give to them. When couples can’t agree on money and budgeting, or it’s causing a lot of stress, marriage counseling with Terri Clinton Dichiser, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Kansas and Missouri,
How many times have you sat in an airport during the holiday season and thought, “What was I thinking?” Traveling during the busiest time of the year can bring out the worst in you both. An expert on expatriate families, Julia Simens, knows just how to handle holiday travel. She asserts that “Spending money on a hotel room is often money well spent.” She says that “Even if the family home has plenty of space, it is a good idea to build in some personal space to save the holiday. Stay in a hotel to get over jet lag or to have a quiet place to go to during the long all-day event.”
Marriage counseling with Terri is unique – she uses Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to help couples reconnect with each other. She uses marriage counseling to help couples recognize the negative patterns they have established in their relationship and offers tools and strategies to break those patterns to create a renewed sense of safety and security with your spouse.
EFT research shows:
- More than 70% of couples turned their relationship around; from distressed – no matter how distressed – to happy in 15-20 sessions; and
- More than 90% of couples “significantly improved.”
EFT is marriage counseling based on 20 years of clinical studies with proven results for couples in crisis. EFT marriage counseling is in the safe environment of Terri’s office to help you create a haven of safety and strength in your marriage. Marriage based on a connection with your spouse makes you stronger as an individual and in your marriage.
Take Charge, Inc. is located in Overland Park, Kansas. For more information, call (913) 239-8255.
Marriage Counseling can strike fear into the hearts of many people. Couples might picture a therapist who judges them, allies with one partner over the other, gives couples unworkable or fluffy “solutions” to their problems or who means well but is a waste of time and money. Marriage Counseling with Terri Clinton Dichiser at Take Charge, Inc. provides the total opposite – she provides an atmosphere for couples to connect to one another.
There are many common myths about Marriage Counseling that can easily be debunked. One is “Someone who doesn’t know me can’t help me.” The fact that a therapist like Terri doesn’t know you is exactly why she can help you!
The Marriage Counseling process works because Terri comes into every session unbiased. She is an impartial, neutral therapist who will help you sort through your marriage issues so you can go on to be more productive and happy in your daily life.
Terri uses the Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to help couples in Marriage Counseling reconnect. In couples counseling she helps couples recognize the patterns they have established in their relationship and will offer tools and strategies to break the patterns and to create a renewed sense of safety and security in the marriage.
EFT is Marriage Counseling based on 20 years of clinical studies with proven results for couples in crisis. EFT research shows more than 70 percent of couples turned their marriage around, and 90 percent of couples “significantly improved.” EFT Marriage Counseling is based on therapy with your spouse in the safe environment of Terri’s office. She will help your marriage create a connection with your spouse that makes you stronger not only in your marriage, but as an individual.
Five benefits of Marriage Counseling are:
- You will learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy manner;
- You will learn how to communicate your needs clearly and openly without resentment or anger;
- You will learn how to be assertive without being offensive;
- You will learn to process and work through unresolved issues; and
- You will develop a deeper understanding of who your spouse is and what his/her needs are.
Your relationship is Terri’s passion. She believes in the effectiveness of EFT and the benefits it will offer in Marriage Counseling. Terri allows the EFT process to reveal the unique benefits of each partner, and how these qualities work in your relationship.
Terri is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Kansas and Missouri and has provided exceptional service to clients since 1991. To make an appointment, call Take Charge, Inc. at (913) 239-8255.
A good time to attend marriage counseling is when:
- You want to learn skills and tools to have a good or even better marriage or relationship
- As soon as one of you thinks you need it, even if the other person doesn’t think so.
- You feel stuck and what you have tried on your own is not working.
- One of you feels emotionally or physically/sexually disconnected and can’t seem to change it on your own.
- You fight or withdraw or refuse to address issues of conflict.
- You think your partner is what is wrong with the marriage or relationship.
- You are thinking you might be happier with someone else
Often, couples can work out the problems which inevitably arise in a marriage. However, sometimes those problems can seem too serious, too involved or just plain too messy for the couple to come up with a solution by themselves. It is at that point, and sometimes before that point, where marriage counseling can be a very positive step to take in order to find a solution for couples.
When actress Gwyneth Paltrow and singer Chris Martin announced they were having a “conscious uncoupling”, it left a lot of people asking, what is conscious uncoupling, and can divorce counseling help couples through this and intentional divorce?
Breaking up is not just hard to do, it’s incredibly painful. People grieve after romantic relationships dissolve, suffering from self-blame and other negative thoughts. It creates real psychological distress and a reduced sense of life satisfaction, an effect magnified for serious, highly committed relationships (Rhoades, Kamp Dush, Atkins, Stanley, & Markman, 2011).
Terri Dichiser Clinton, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Kansas and Missouri, practices in Overland Park, Kansas, she uses therapy and to help couples recognize the negative patterns that have been established in the marriage and offers strategies to break those negative and damaging patterns.
Paltrow and Martin announced that instead of divorce, they did “consciously uncoupling”. This revelation was met by the public with some surprise, some snickers, and some questions about what conscious uncoupling is, and whether it’s in any way different from typical separations.
The term “conscious uncoupling” seems to have been popularized by psychotherapist Katherine Woodward Thomas, whose five-week program is designed to ease individuals through detachment from a relationship and readjustment to single-hood. The program challenges the traditional view of a break-up as a traumatic experience, conceptualizing it instead as a growth opportunity and offering a “smooth and painless transition into your new, magnificent life.”
“Intentional divorce” may describe a pattern of growth, self-compassion, and mindfulness that does in fact help individuals cope with the hardship of disentangling their life from another’s. Given that all individuals experiencing a separation must find some manner of coping, an approach emphasizing aspects of positive psychology, like conscious uncoupling, maybe a healthy alternative to self-blame, hurtful words, and guilt.
The move toward a more intentional divorce in marriages, committed partnerships and families is a positive one in a society where 40 to 50 percent of couples still divorce, a statistic that hasn’t changed much over the last couple of decades.
A traditional divorce can cost anywhere upward into six figures or more, depending on the nature of the battle. If custody becomes an issue and children are used as pawns in the divorce, the kids testify and the divorce can drag on, becoming more expensive and more emotionally damaging to all parties.
When in divorce counseling with Terri, it helps move past the surface problems to the root issues that brought the relationship to this point. Terri guides you to recognize the destructive patterns of behavior and communication you and your spouse have created in your relationship and move into healthy detachment.
Take Charge, Inc., is located Overland Park, Kansas. For more information about marriage counseling with Terri, call (913) 239-8255.