Individual Counseling may be a consideration for some as we approach Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is the holiday of love – a day to celebrate your significant other. But for some, it’s not all roses and chocolates. Multiple studies, including one tracking Facebook breakup statuses, have shown that couples are more likely to break up in the weeks before and after Valentine’s Day. So, why does a holiday meant to celebrate relationships result in more break-ups?
There are many reasons why relationships tend to disintegrate around Valentine’s Day. One of those is expectations – someone in a couple expects roses, chocolates, and a fancy dinner out. When those hopes and expectations don’t happen, people become disappointed. There’s also comparison – social media shows others out enjoying a concert or meal together, while you and your significant other are at home together. Feeling dissatisfied is a common reaction, and individual counseling with Terri can help you deal with the external obstacles, social attitudes, or your own internal barriers.
Another common problem with Valentine’s Day – some may feel love-starved on a daily basis in anticipation for the one day to feel loved. Bottling up all of our love for one special day doesn’t allow us to practice the daily things, like gratitude and affirmations that make relationships thrive. More often than not, partners may use extravagant dinners and gifts as band-aids for chronic relationship issues. Instead of celebrating relationships only on February 14th, a healthy couple pays attention to and celebrates the relationship throughout the year. Through individual counseling with Terri, you have the freedom to explore your wants and desires as well as how to expand the scope of your significant relationships.
Terri Clinton Dichiser, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Overland Park, Kansas, believes that individual counseling is key to maintaining healthy relationships year round. Consistent counseling can help diminish the stressful impact of relationship focused events, such as Valentine’s Day. Understanding our individual expectations and feelings allows us to be present and authentic in our on-going relationships, without adding undue pressure to “perform” or “conform”. You don’t have to be under significant stress to seek out individual counseling with Terri. Terri can help you with your relationship issues year round.