Marriage counseling can help when blending two families together. It can result in a beautiful new family, filled with unique bonds and relationships, and it can also come with its share of struggles. Marriage is one of the most important relationships we will ever have, but it can also be one of the most complicated.
It won’t necessarily be easy, and there will definitely be bumps in the road, but if you put in the time and effort needed to bring everyone together, your blended family can be stronger and happier than you’d ever imagined.
What Defines a Blended Family?
By definition, a blended family consists of a couple residing with children they have had together and/or children one or both of them has from a previous relationship.
Important Considerations to Make
There are a number of things to consider when becoming a blended family. These may include understanding how the changes coming about will affect each member of the family individually as well as how the family, as a single unit rather than two separates, will change and grow and evolve into a new entity.
At Take Charge, Inc., Terri Dichiser uses Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to help couples work on their relationship with marriage counseling and transitioning to a blended family.
Changes to Routine and Ritual
As an example, each family, as a separate unit, will have their own rituals and routines. Rituals, also commonly referred to as traditions, are a set of behaviors that are often repeated and have significant meaning – they are a way of transferring family values, history, and culture from older generations to younger ones. Routines are the ways by which a family gets through their day-by-day lives – they are often essential to functionality of the family unit. Trying to create a blend of both families’ routines and rituals can be difficult – but it is possible.
How to Ease the Adjustment
There are a number of ways that can help both, you and your partner, as well as each of the children involved, get through the transition from living separately to becoming a single unit and go as smoothly as possible. Marriage counseling involving EFT shows that more than 90 percent of couples significantly improved. EFT is therapy for marriage counseling based on more than 20 years of clinical studies with proven results. It is very important that the family identify realistic expectations and not address the desire that it will immediately be the Brady Brunch.
Find Activities That Unite
A great way for new blended families to bond is to find activities that everyone enjoys and do them together. By choosing activities that are enjoyed by everyone, you are ensuring that everyone feels included. Group activities are a fun way for everyone, especially the children, to get to know each other and bond with their new siblings/step-parent.