Individual counseling at Take Charge, Inc. with Terri Dichiser in Overland Park, Kansas, can be beneficial when you’re about to become an empty nester or are currently experiencing it. Life has just seemed to pass by so quickly. Your little kids are no longer playing in the yard or running through the house. Just like that, they are all grown up, heading off to college or ready to start their lives without you. If you find yourself in this situation you are officially an “empty nester.”
Remember when you were a child and you couldn’t wait until the day you became an adult. You were so excited to graduate, find that dream job, buy a house, get married and have children. Well, for many of you these major life experiences did happen and now you’re wondering where in the world did the time go?
With individual counseling, Terri can help you with coming to terms with being an empty nester, and how to stay positive throughout whatever point you’re at personally. There are many things to reflect on that can be beneficial to you as an empty nester to help you through this time in your life.
Take pride in your accomplishment.
Raising children is an enormous, life-defining and intense job. Now is the time to revel in the fact that you “made” it and produced an independent child (or children), ready to take on the challenges of the world. You have now entered a group of human beings who have made an enormous contribution to society by responsibly and consistently raising children to become fine young adults.
Recognize that you taught your children life lessons, which will allow them to thrive on their own.
Be happy that although your nest may be a little bare now, celebrate that you’ve taught your child well and have produced an individual who will go forward as an independent, well-rounded individual.
Acknowledge your feelings.
Celebrating your empty nester status doesn’t mean putting on a brave front and denying how you’re feeling inside. Indeed, it’s important that you acknowledge the feelings and deal with them gently, as well as finding the upbeat path to your new future. It’s possible that you’re experiencing a whole gamut of feelings, including sadness, guilt at the relief you’re suddenly feeling, a sense of loss, feeling lost about your next steps, exhilaration, worry, and so forth.
All such feelings are normal and unless they cause you to withdraw or sit on the sofa endlessly wondering what to do next, working through them at your own pace will set them to rest. Above all, let go of guilt, especially if it’s caused by thinking you should be feeling sad but you’re not; you have done your best and you now deserve this time back to yourself.
When you are in individual counseling at Take Charge, Inc., Terri provides a safe, comfortable environment that allows you to put your thoughts and feeling into words, without fear of criticism or judgment. She will guide you into a better understanding and possibly a different perspective on your life’s circumstances.