Individual counseling at Take Charge, Inc. can help you get through the year without feeling the guilt of not keeping a New Year’s resolution. When it comes to New Year’s resolutions, how many times have you or someone you know lost the same ten pounds? What about joining a gym – how many times have you joined one but never really got into a steady routine of going? And then there’s learning that new language. How many years in a row did you vow that this was the year it would happen? If this sounds familiar, listen up, and don’t feel bad, because you are not alone.
As a matter of fact, according to a study by The University of Scranton’s Journal of Clinical Psychology, only 39% of people in their twenties achieve their resolution goals each year. The number keeps decreasing with age. By the time you are in your fifties, only 14% of people achieve their resolution goals each year.
So why is this? Well there are a few reasons:
- We bite off big chunks that aren’t realistic. We go from doing nothing to saying we will do everything.
- We make commitments based on other people’s expectations. We worry too much of what other people are thinking instead of asking ourselves, what will make “me” happy?
- We don’t have the right mindset. We have not made that internal shift.
With individual counseling at Take Charge, Inc. in Overland Park, Kansas, Terri Clinton Dichiser believes healing and understanding go together and most of life’s issue can be managed and maintained through a consistent, commitment to you.
Terri provides a safe, comfortable environment that allows you to put your thoughts and feeling into words, without fear of criticism or judgment. She will guide you into a better understanding and possibly a different perspective on your life’s circumstances.
One way to achieve small goals is to throw away your New Year’s resolutions and think about what you should be doing all year long. Do you want to start a blog? There’s no need to have to feel like you should have a new post every day. Breaking up what you want to do into smaller-sized goals will help you achieve what you want to.
Start small and have commitment to every action. Do not make excuses when you fail. Simply acknowledge it, determine why it happened and move on. Once you see small victories, the large ones will follow.
You don’t have to be ‘crazy’ or under significant duress to seek individual counseling Sometimes our beliefs or expectations of ourselves or counseling result in a delay in seeking help until situations become serious, or we are already in crisis. While no issue is too big or small, many people tell us that they wish they had come to counseling sooner.
For more information and to make an appointment, contact Take Charge, Inc. at (913) 239-8255.
The holidays can cause stress in marriages whether you are newlyweds or have been married for more than 30 years – marriage counseling at Take Charge, Inc. can help you, as a couple, thrive during the holidays when money, family members and traveling can be major stressors on your marriage.
Couples often fight over money and budgeting. The holidays can cause an excessive amount of stress about money. One way to forgo the stress and fighting is to sit down together and write up how much you are willing to spend on gifts, decorations and more.
There is a lot of pressure to get your children all the presents they want, but parents should remember that money doesn’t equal memories. Instead of blowing your budget, your family can volunteer at community events or choose a family in need and give to them. When couples can’t agree on money and budgeting, or it’s causing a lot of stress, marriage counseling with Terri Clinton Dichiser, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Kansas and Missouri,
How many times have you sat in an airport during the holiday season and thought, “What was I thinking?” Traveling during the busiest time of the year can bring out the worst in you both. An expert on expatriate families, Julia Simens, knows just how to handle holiday travel. She asserts that “Spending money on a hotel room is often money well spent.” She says that “Even if the family home has plenty of space, it is a good idea to build in some personal space to save the holiday. Stay in a hotel to get over jet lag or to have a quiet place to go to during the long all-day event.”
Marriage counseling with Terri is unique – she uses Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to help couples reconnect with each other. She uses marriage counseling to help couples recognize the negative patterns they have established in their relationship and offers tools and strategies to break those patterns to create a renewed sense of safety and security with your spouse.
EFT research shows:
- More than 70% of couples turned their relationship around; from distressed – no matter how distressed – to happy in 15-20 sessions; and
- More than 90% of couples “significantly improved.”
EFT is marriage counseling based on 20 years of clinical studies with proven results for couples in crisis. EFT marriage counseling is in the safe environment of Terri’s office to help you create a haven of safety and strength in your marriage. Marriage based on a connection with your spouse makes you stronger as an individual and in your marriage.
Take Charge, Inc. is located in Overland Park, Kansas. For more information, call (913) 239-8255.
The holiday season often brings unwelcome guests — stress and depression, but with Individual Counseling with Terri Clinton Dichiser at Take Charge, Inc. in Overland Park, Kansas, Terri provides a safe, comfortable environment that allows you to put your thoughts and feelings into words, without fear of criticism or judgment.
There are some ways to help with depression during the holidays. They include:
1) Acknowledge your feelings. If someone close to you has recently died or you can’t be with loved ones, realize that it’s normal to feel sadness and grief. It’s okay to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can’t force yourself to be happy just because it’s the holiday season. When you are in Individual Counseling, Terri believes that healing and understanding go together and most of life’s issues, including feeling depressed or lonely during the holidays, can be managed through a consistent commitment to yourself.
2) Reach out. If you feel lonely or isolated, seek out community, religious or other social events. They can offer support and companionship. Volunteering your time to help others also is a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships. If this is having a negative ability to live a fulfilled life during the holidays, Terri will help you bring that area under control.
3) Be realistic. The holidays don’t have to be perfect or just like last year. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to and be open to creating new ones. For example, if your adult children can’t come to your house, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos.
4) Set aside differences. Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don’t live up to all your expectations. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. And be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they’re feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.
Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, and unable to face routine chores. You go to a doctor when you are physically sick, you go to a salon to get your hair cut. Choose a counselor who is qualified to help you with your issues. Terri, located in Overland Park Kansas, offers 15 years of counseling experience and more than 22 years of working with Individual Counseling and families.
To make an appointment with Terri at Take Charge, Inc., call (913) 239-8255 and make the holiday season easier on yourself.
Depression treatment with Terri Clinton Dichiser of Take Charge, Inc. during the holidays can help a parent who shares parenting time of a child or children and misses out on some of the special days deal with the loss and create new meaning. Terri also offers co-parenting counseling to parents in the divorce process or already divorced trying to implement the holiday parenting plan. The goal of co-parenting counseling is to have a cooperative parenting relationship while living separate lives.
The upcoming holiday season can include Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day. If your child is in school it can also include your child’s winter break. Both parents want to be with the child during these holidays and during this time of year because parents typically have time off work and your child has time off from school. These holidays and winter break are an important part of your holiday schedule when sharing split time.
Depression treatment can be a way to help a parent cope during the holidays and with the changes. Co-parenting counseling helps you develop the time with the children during the holidays, if both parties are willing to work with each other. Although parents have made the decision to live life apart, they will be parents together for the rest of their lives. Co-parenting helps divorcing or divorced parents continue to raise their children together, while living separate individual lives.
Here are some ways that parents can work together during the holidays to ensure they both get to spend time with their children:
- Alternate holidays every year. You can assign holidays to each parent for even years and then swap the holidays in odd years. With this arrangement, you won’t miss spending a holiday with your child more than one year in a row.
- Split the holiday in half. You can split the day of the holiday so that your child spends part of the day with each parent. This arrangement requires planning and coordination because you don’t want your child to spend holidays traveling all day.
- Schedule a holiday twice. You can schedule time for each parent to celebrate a holiday with your child. For example, one parent can celebrate Christmas with the child on Dec. 20th and the other parent on the 25th.
If divorced parents can’t get along, Terri can provide effective tools to help parents not only relate and communicate with each other, but to establish an amicable relationship that extends beyond the parenting roles.
If you feel like the upcoming holidays are already getting you down, Depression treatment at Take Charge, Inc. in Overland Park, Kansas is a way to learn to cope with co-parenting during the holiday season.
For more information about Depression treatment or Co-Parenting counseling at Take Charge, Inc., call (913) 239-8255 or visit https://takechargeinc.net/contact/.