Marriage counseling with Terri Clinton Dichiser at Take Charge, Inc., can help you find your way out of the three common dialogues that couples get stuck in. You can find your way out, and Terri provides an atmosphere for couples to connect to one another again.
One of the most common dialogues couples can get stuck in is mutual blame-It is not Me, It’s You. It is an attack-attack pattern. This is a dead-end pattern, and no one wins. Fights can progress to a who gets to blame who contest, mutual attacks and accusations. This is the type of dialogue that can trap couples in a no-solution emotional starvation and insecurity.
The second common dialogue is when one partner reaches out, even in a negative way, and the other steps back and the pattern repeats over and over again. Each partner needs an emotional connection to each other, but they also have a fear of rejection and abandonment. One person is demanding and protests the disconnection and the other person withdraws protesting the implied criticism. This is an endless loop and becomes very familiar causing fatigue.
The third common dialogue is when couples freeze each other out-there is a deadly silence in the relationship. Humans are not wired for this type of emotional and physical isolation. The relationship will fail if couples continue to not communicate at all.
Terri uses EFT to help you and your spouse move past the surface problems you face into the root issues that brought your relationship to this point. In these root issues, Terri guides you to recognize the destructive patterns of behavior and communication you and your spouse have created in your relationship. Couples recognize these patterns and behaviors are the enemy in the marriage, not each another.
Terri ‘s passion is your relationship. Terri believes in the effectiveness of EFT and the benefits it will offer your partner relationship. Terri recognizes that all relationships/marriages are as unique as the people who are in them. Terri allows the EFT process to reveal the unique qualities of each partner and how these qualities work in the relationship.
Terri utilizes Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to help couples reconnect with one another. She uses therapy and marriage counseling to help couples recognize the patterns they have established in their relationship and offers tools and strategies to break those patterns to create a renewed sense of safety and security with your spouse.
EFT research shows:
· More than 70% of couples turned their relationship around; from distressed – no matter how distressed – to happy
· More than 90% of couples “significantly improved.”
EFT is counseling therapy based on 20 years of clinical studies with proven results for couples in crisis. EFT counseling is based on therapy with your spouse in the safe environment of Terri’s office to help you create a haven of safety and strength in your marriage. Marriage based on a connection with your spouse that makes you stronger as an individual and in together in your marriage.
Couples can find their way out of these demon dialogues with marriage counseling. When each partner is willing to work on their marriage, they can succeed.