Marriage counseling is available at Take Charge, Inc. for couples to learn giving the gift of taking care and nurturing the marriage. We take care of our vehicles, homes, and other parts of life, yet couples forget to maintain and continuously give to the most important relationship they’ve committed. If we have a car and drive it every day but never do an oil change, put gas in or provide basic maintenance the car will stop running. The same thing happens in our marriages. We marry and provide a lot of attention and care to the other, yet this can fade when unresolved hurts and conflict goes unattended. Don’t let your marriage stop running as your relationship is a foundation to all we do in life. Marriage counseling is also for maintaining that giving to each other, not just when your marriage reaches a critical point and is needed immediately.
Life, so the saying goes, is all about give and take, where we get along by trying to balance our giving and taking. All relationships, it seems, have this element of striving for balance. Unfortunately, in many cases we give a lot when the other doesn’t give enough. Marriage differs from other types of relationships.
At Take Charge, Inc., Terri Dichiser utilizes Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). EFT is counseling therapy based on more than 20 years of clinical studies with proven results for couples in crisis. EFT marriage counseling is based on therapy with your spouse in the safe environment of Terri’s office to help you create a haven of safety and strength in your marriage – a marriage based on a connection with your spouse that makes you stronger as an individual and in your marriage.
Marriage is a give and give relationship at its core, which sets it apart, and above, from all other relationships. We need to apply the principles of mutuality and reciprocity in our marriage. Reciprocal relationships require a spirit of cooperation, as well as an understanding of and ability to embrace interdependence. If one partner tries to use control, be superior or is competitive with their spouse then reciprocity will be difficult to maintain. If you treat marriage like any other relationship, you will never get the great marital benefits.
Marriage requires you to provide a higher level of commitment as we can’t just take and ignore maintenance to our relationship. We need to understand our needs and our partner’s needs instead of just trying to get as much as possible from our spouse. Remember you married your partner for both of you to experience connection and safety.
Terri uses EFT to help you and your spouse move past the surface problems you face into the root issues that brought your relationship to this point. In these root issues, Terri guides you to recognize the patterns of behavior and communication you and your spouse have created in your relationship. Couples recognize these patterns and behaviors are the enemy in the marriage, not each another.